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Lock Down His Love

by Elise Nersesian Women’s

It happened slowly, over time. Relationships became less defined, and now it’s often hard to know if you’re actually in one. “Even if a guy acts like a boyfriend, he may not be committed,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women. “Online dating gives you so many choices that some guys prefer to keep their options open.”

That’s where Facebook comes in—not only does it connect men with new potential mates, it also keeps them in touch with old flames. “Our studies show that 80 percent of people keep in contact with their exes through social-networking sites,” says Amy Muise, a Ph.D. candidate in the department of applied social psychology at the University of Guelph in Ontario. “With all these reminders of the past, it can become harder for men to live in the present and make their relationships official.”

The provider complex
But perhaps the biggest factor that’s keeping men perpetually single is the economy. Significantly more men than women have lost their jobs. In fact, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, roughly 75 percent of lost jobs have been to men since the recession began. Understandably, guys feel overwhelming pressure to focus solely on their careers. “Many men have decided they simply can’t afford to have a girlfriend right now,” says Bethany Marshall, Ph.D., author of Deal Breakers. “They don’t have the money to buy expensive dinners or fancy gifts.” Nor do they feel they have the time or energy necessary for making a relationship work.

As a result, many couples (and we’re using that term loosely) fall into a gray area that sort of resembles a relationship but lacks the exclusivity and respect that a real romance requires. And this state of being may suit men better than women. “It’s important to women to know where they stand,” Marshall says. “They are relational by nature and need to know their role with a man in order to feel comfortable.”

How to make him your boyfriend
According to research, women have a greater chance of landing a boyfriend when they don’t have sex on the first date. “Even if he’s trying to angle his way upstairs, men actually enjoy waiting,” advises Haltzman. Log three or four dates before sleeping with him. If that’s too retro for you, at least limit the number of nights you hang out. “Don’t skip yoga or happy hour just because he wants to see you,” says Marshall. “Not always being available keeps the mystery alive.”

Also, when he asks what you want to do on a date, throw out something low-key, like dinner at a bar or a bike ride. That will take the pressure off him financially, and you’ll appear fun and unpretentious—qualities all men admire.

Done all that and he’s still not committing? It’s time to articulate your desires. “Guys may hate ‘the talk,’ but it’s fair for you to express that you would like to be exclusive,” Haltzman says. Try saying something like, “I’m having fun with you and I don’t really want to see other people anymore. Do you?” If he says he can’t commit, break it off. Sometimes, realizing you’re slipping away is what gives him the kick in the butt to hold on.

December 19, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Love | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Nicole “Coco” Austin: History, Photos and Video

Nicole “CoCo”Austin was born in Palos Verdes, California. Her parents were actors who met on the set of Bonanza. She also has a younger sister (Kristy Williams) and a younger brother. As a small child, her brother would mispronounce his sister’s name, saying “Cole Cole” or “Co-co” in place of “Nicole”. Eventually family and friends also began addressing Nicole as Coco. The family moved to Albuquerque, New Mexico when she was 10. She grew up as a tomboy, riding quads and playing football.[1]

Coco began dancing (jazz, tap and ballet) at six years old and was introduced to the stage early by her mother. She was involved in many productions at the Alt Theater in Albuquerque. She then moved into modeling and started entering competitions. At 14, she won the Beverly Hills Studio modeling contest, her first model-search contest. The main prize was a $20,000 scholarship to attend the school, where her classmates included Jessica Alba and Hilary Swank.

At 18, Coco began specializing in swimsuit, lingerie and body modeling. She entered in swimsuit competitions and modeled for calendars, catalogs and videos. At 18, she won the 1998 Miss Ujena contest in Mexico.   In 2001, Coco worked for Playboy for six months, working their events and parties at the Playboy Mansion. She appeared in low-budget R-rated films, including Southwest Babes (2001), Desert Rose (2002), and The Dirty Monks (2004).

In the beginning of 2005 she married actor/rapper Ice-T. She is frequently seen with him at red carpet events. Coco has made guest appearances on various TV shows, such as Jamie Kennedy, E! Hip-Hop Wives, the Comedy Central Roast of Flavor Flav, The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson and Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. She was featured in a layout in the March 2008 issue of Playboy magazine and had a role in the film Thira (2008). Coco appeared on NBC‘s game show Celebrity Family Feud on June 24, 2008 (with winnings donated to charity). She and her husband, Ice-T, competed against Joan and Melissa Rivers.

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December 19, 2009 Posted by | Art/Culture, Dating/Sex | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is Tiger Woods Syndrome Making Your Wife Suspicious?

By Joel Keller

As if men didn’t have enough to worry about in the relationship department, along comes Tiger Woods to make it even harder. If TMZ is to be believed, his epic philandering has sullied the reputations of seemingly nice guys everywhere and is turning their wives into paranoid cell-phone snoopers.

They’ve dubbed the phenomenon Tiger Woods Syndrome, and the most high-profile sufferer is “American Idol” winner Kris Allen, whose wife is apparently “having bad dreams” after reading about the Tiger mess.

Until Tiger backed his Escalade over that fire hydrant on Thanksgiving night, he was seen as a pretty milquetoast kind of guy — intense and competitive, but a good family man. So it makes sense that wives might begin to wonder if their nice guy is stepping out on them.

Never mind that the actions of a super-rich, world-famous athlete don’t exactly equate to what might happen when the average woman’s husband stays at that Hampton Inn in Sheboygan for that twice-a-year sales meeting. Still, for the minority of dudes who actually are cheating, things have to be getting pretty uncomfortable.

Has the Tiger Woods scandal made your wife or significant other more paranoid?

December 19, 2009 Posted by | Celebs, Dating/Sex, Love | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Good Girl Gone Badass

By Lisa DePaulo GQ Magazine

rihanna is running late. Several hours late. Her fluffy bronze poodle, Oliver, arrives before she does, with his own entourage. There is much fussing over the dog (“You smell like your mommy”) outside the soundstage in Burbank, where the musicians and crew for her upcoming world tour are waiting and pacing. Almost everyone but the poodle is chain-smoking cigarettes. It’s been one of those weeks. A few days before, Rihanna spilled her guts to Diane Sawyer about the “whole Chris Brown thing,” as the musicians call it, and though the interview hasn’t aired yet, the buzz is on. She has also been saying things like, “I’ve put everything I’ve wanted to say for the past eight months into my music,” which might explain some of what’s emanating from the studio. Is that Rihanna, the sweet girl from Barbados, dropping the N-bomb? Her new album, Rated R, is, to put it mildly, edgier than the under-my-umbrella stuff that sold 12 million records. One song, called “G4L” (Gangsta for Life), sounds like a revenge fantasy, with her homegirls arming themselves with guns to go out and fuck somebody up. On another track, she talks about getting her hair pulled during sex. She’s made her point.

But apparently not enough. Rihanna’s image—so carefully crafted and handled and managed from the moment she was plucked, at age 15, from a girl group in Barbados by a producer who would squire her to his home in Stamford, Connecticut, get her a record deal with Def Jam, and send her on her way to superstardom—had gotten all twisted up in the “Chris Brown thing.” In the record business, domestic violence isn’t just a tragedy; it’s an image crisis. So now Team Rihanna had to decide how to “handle it.” Their plan was this: She’d talk about it for the release of the album. She’d do Diane and Glamour and announce that she wanted to help young women who’d been in her position. Even if that meant addressing what really happened that ugly night last February, when she and Chris Brown left a pre-Grammy party, gorgeous, smiling, and posing, got into his car, and she later emerged bloody, bruised, and bitten.

Before I even meet Rihanna, I feel for the girl. It’s bad enough to have the guy you’re madly in love with beat the shit out of you. It must be quite another thing to have this whole apparatus surrounding you (and your poodle), making you confront this horrible episode on public terms. And then what? If you say you want to help young women, can you really stop talking after the publicity blitz is over? And should you have to go through any of this? Not to get all domestic-violence preachy, but what Robyn Rihanna Fenty endured, at the tender age of 20 (when Chris Brown beat her up, she was two weeks shy of her twenty-first birthday), is not something that is likely to go away after the world tour.

On the lot in Burbank, the star’s new single, “Wait Your Turn,” keeps blasting through the walls of Studio 10. And finally, a flurry of excitement outside. Rihanna has arrived, in the backseat of an Escalade. Her driver pulls up to the double doors of the soundstage and idles for a good ten minutes while she slowly, extravagantly, applies mascara. Then she emerges, in the dramatic fashion that stars like Rihanna do naturally when exiting vehicles. The pause, then the ta-da. Like there are paparazzi waiting. (There aren’t.) The first impression is pure tough girl. The overly zippered jeans, the black boots, the gray hoodie, the big silver metallic bag that she swings over her shoulder like it’s a weapon, and the new hair (shaved and brown on the sides, pineapple blond on top). “That is the fucking bomb, that hair,” one of the crew tells her. I introduce myself. “Sweet,” she says, not very sweetly, and turns toward the studio. She wants to be alone first to say hello to her crew. “I’ll meet you down there, okay?” she says. Okay. “Sweet,” she says again.    Continue reading…

December 19, 2009 Posted by | Music, News | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Do I Measure Up?

Dr. Chaves,

I have a 4.8-inch penis with a 4.5-inch girth. I know that these are both below average and I also know that size won’t matter that much, but do you think the girth will be a problem for me in the future? Charles P., Miami, FL

Most guys think about the size of their penis. However, why do we focus so much on how much meat’s on the sausage? Your girth is pretty close to the average for males (4.8 inches around). I wouldn’t worry much about it being a future problem. A finger or two has a smaller girth than the average penis, but can do wondrous things if used properly on or inside a woman.

What guys need to understand is that women complain less about penis size/girth and more about sexual technique, intimacy and foreplay from their male counterparts. You’re better off taking those penis girth thoughts and refocusing them on sexual technique books, videos and partner pleasure. Learn how to arouse a woman, stimulate her, the art of foreplay, female anatomy, and positions that offer a tighter feeling and deeper penetration. I promise that learning these things will change your life and be much more valuable than stressing over things we can’t control.

Dr. Chaves answers more of your questions on sex and sexuality at

December 19, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Love | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment