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Cosmopolitan Launches Sex Position of the Day iPhone App


If you’re stuck in a rut with your girlfriend and have absolutely no imagination, the new Sex Position of the Day iPhone app from Cosmopolitan Magazine could help.

This to-go version of The Cosmo Kama Sutra for the iPhone features 77 sex positions direct from the pages of the famed book along with innovative features including the “Slot Machine Effect” and the “Shake,” each of which provides various sex positions for every day.

Cosmo’s Sex Position of the Day app also includes:

  • The Carnal Challenge Rating: the more flames a position displays, the higher the difficulty
  • Erotic Instructions: hints to help you make the most of the position and what to look forward to
  • Colorful Illustration: tasteful visuals that help you understand what the position should look like

Future updates will include additional positions from Cosmo’s Red-Hot Sex Guide and Cosmo’s Aqua Kama Sutra.

Cosmo’s Sex Position of the Day is available on iTunes for $1.99.

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Health Benefits of Having Sex

by Bravo

So you’re getting hot and heavy with your partner, I’m sure the last thing on your mind is how sex improves your health, and boosts your immune system. Good sex offers these 2 health benefits of much more.

Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist says, “the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people.” The health benefits of sex are backed up with scientific scrutiny, so practice safe sex, and live abundantly.

Cures Headaches

Next time your girlfriend complains about her headache, and doesn’t want to have sex, remind her about it relieves pain and stress. Whenever you engage in sexual activity the hormone oxytocin is produced and distributed across your body. Due to this secretion, endorphins are released within your body, improving your mood and reducing pain naturally.

When someone is aroused, oxytocin levels not only increase, but they are the reason that orgasms come about. These increasing oxytocin levels can relieve pain; diminish headaches, cramps, and aid in body recovery.

Reduces Stress, Sleep Better

Studies have revealed that people with healthy sexual lifestyles feel more at ease and handle stress better. When you have an orgasm, an intense wave of relaxation overcomes your body, that’s why a lot of people sleep after climax. A healthy amount of sex helps you sleep better, and gives you a feeling of refreshment and energy throughout the day.

Boosts Immunity

Having sex on a regular basis can mean better physical health. Having sex a couple times a week releases higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA., which protects you against colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University took saliva, which contains IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA than those who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week.

In addition, the hormone DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone) is released every time you have an orgasm. DHEA keeps skin healthy, improves cognition, boosts your immune system, and even acts as an antidepressant. So keep the orgasms coming, and reap the benefits of a strong mind, body and soul.

Boost Self Esteem

Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist in Cambridge, Mass says, “One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves. Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.” Even people with strong self-esteem feel even better after having sex.

Improves Intimacy

Are you having intimacy problems with your partner? Studies have shown that having sex increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the “love hormone,” which promotes bond and trust with your partner. Oxytocin also promotes generosity, so next time you’re feeling generous in the bedroom, thank oxytocin.

Burns Calories

Sex is a form of exercise burning upwards of 85 calories per 30 minutes. You may think 85 calories, big deal? If you’re sexually active on a monthly basis, you could have 30-50 half-hour sessions.  Let’s average that to 40, and you could burn 3,400 calories in one month, which is nearly equal to 1 pound of weight. In addition to promoting weight loss, sex increases our heart rate and blood flow. Healthy doses of oxygen replenish the body, cleansing our systems of old wasteful products. This is the most pleasurable way to lose weight, improve health, and live longer if you ask me.

Sex Works Magic

The psychological and physical benefits of sex are undeniable. Sex boosts your immune system, reduces stress, fights off diseases, replenishes your body, and much more. Feel better about yourself with healthy doses of sex on a regular basis.

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What’s Changed This Decade (1999-2009)

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It’s Not Going To Be OK

By Jon Skindzier

If you’re one of those guys still lounging around and waiting for life to happen, consider this: By 35, many of the world’s great men weren’t just working on groundbreaking masterpieces, they’d finished them. Christopher Marlowe had inspired Shakespeare, and died, by the time he was 29; F. Scott Fitzgerald had written The Great Gatsby by 29; and Orson Welles wrote, directed and starred in what’s often considered the greatest film ever made at the doe-eyed age of 25.

In Welles’ day, most of us would have been married with kids by our mid-20s. Popular culture wants to convince us that we can remain young indefinitely (usually through buying things), but 30 is not the new 20 — 30 is 30. If you aren’t well on your way to what you really want to do with your life, you need to start yesterday. It’s not going to be OK unless you get off your ass and start doing something — now.

You are not going to stumble into your dream job

Your current job — what you’re doing right now — is your career and your identity. Does that thought satisfy you? If you took your current title and slapped it on a business card, would you be happy handing that thing out to hot girls, aware that they’d think that’s what you are as a person?

Careers take work. Dreams take even more. Malcolm Gladwell (a Canadian journalist) suggests that it takes 10,000 hours of practice to master something, and that “genius” is as much effort as it is talent. Mozart wasn’t some god-child; he was just a kid who practiced his ass off until music was his language. The same thing applies to your future — you can’t expect to succeed if you’re just yawning your way through life with vague, distant dreams. It’s not going to be OK if that’s your approach.

Make it OK: Get to work at maximizing each day and becoming the dude you envision yourself to be now. You’re never going to get to where you want to be if you’re treating your goals like a halfhearted hobby.

Your dream girl will not just roll up and find you

Romantic comedies hinge on two people just wandering into a meaningful relationship. Sitcoms tell us we’ll be right down the hall from gorgeous chicks who will love us for our quirkiness.

These are fiction. These situations do not just happen, and it’s not going to be OK if you think they do. Most guys do get married, but a lot of them wind up on the business end of a shotgun wedding because somebody got pregnant. If you’re leaving your love life up to chance, hoping for destiny to settle things, you’re delusional. You can either put real effort into meeting someone you’ll be thrilled with, or you can flounder between crappy relationships until you’re suddenly the only unmarried guy you know.

Make it OK: Meet people, preferably by going someplace where women are, someplace you actually enjoy. Don’t go to yoga for the chicks if you hate yoga — start with being genuine and confident, and work from there.

We have a few more signs it’s not going to be OK and how you can make it OK by doing something about it

You’re not going to get rich overnight

Outside of winning the lottery (odds: slightly less than being hit by lightning) or just being rich to begin with, wealthy guys have money because they invested or saved. Wealth won’t just fall into your lap, and you won’t just automatically make more money in the future as a matter of course.

According to the 2009 Great Male Survey, 78% of you would only really feel comfortable retiring on a $1 million nest egg. The most important thing is that you don’t see the word “retiring” and assume we’re talking to some old guy — this is what you should be doing.

Make it OK: If you save $4,000 a year at 7%, you’ll wind up with more than twice as much cash at retirement age if you start by 30 instead of 40. So start. Set up an automatic savings plan. Seek out, and care about, financial advice.

Your health doesn’t come with a guarantee

Your body and your brain pretty much quit improving somewhere around age 20. Every year after that, it gets harder to even stay the same, much less to make radical, positive changes. And it’s only going to get harder tomorrow for you to run a mile or bike up a hill than it already is today. Work on the stuff you actually can fix, before you’re saddled with the inevitable stuff (i.e., thinning hair and a slowing metabolism).

Make it OK: Find a gym, or get back to one. Go to your doctor, and your dentist. Quit drinking like you’re 21. Your body remembers your excesses, and will punish you for them.

Don’t leave life to chance

If you think about midlife crises at all, you probably picture some trivial old-guy desperation that happens to other people. But not seeing them coming is what causes them — they’re the sudden realization that youth is irretrievably gone, and you’re more prone to that dawning shock if you’re idling through life and trusting your future to chance. 

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Free To Be Fully Yourself In 2010

Anne Naylor Personal motivation consultant and author,

A New Year, a new decade has arrived, bringing perhaps a fresh start. Are you being true to yourself, doing what gives you joy and satisfaction? Are you content with the way your life is going? Or do you feel there may be something missing that you would now like to find?

The turn of a decade may prompt you to change. A simple change of routine can give you a new perspective: finding new ways of going to work; daring yourself to sing, dance or play a musical instrument, when you never thought you could; putting your left leg into your pants first instead of the right, or vice versa. I did that this morning and it felt really weird.

It may take a dramatic turn of events – like job loss, divorce, ill-health – before you get nudged out of a role you had assumed and into being truly happy in your own skin, doing what you most love to do and finding new joy through it. I have observed that people who “retire” often take up a vocation that is closer to their hearts, and reach a peak of life fulfilment, sometimes greater financial success, in their 70’s.

What does it take to be free to be fully yourself? You might risk the disapproval of those you know, but win new friends. You might give up looking through a glass darkly, seeing how wrong things may be, and find the beauty in simple events around you. You may focus on, and appreciate, your strengths and qualities, and stop criticizing your faults and weaknesses. You might take yourself less seriously, and have a good laugh when you do something stupid. You might stop trying to live up to impossible expectations of yourself, and breathe a welcome sigh of relief. You might come to see the world as a friendly place that forgives your mistakes, and welcomes your triumphs with open arms and congratulations.

Every human has four endowments- self awareness, conscience, independent will
and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom…
The power to choose, to respond, to change.

Stephen Covey

You see, I believe we may have much more freedom than we generally realize. As creatures of habit, we tend to get locked in to beliefs, expectations and patterns of behaviour that limit our freedom. How could you be more free? What would it take? And would it be worth it?

Watch how Ricochet changes her career direction for greater meaning, purpose and fun.

5 Keys To Getting Free To Be Yourself

1. Love

Love yourself. Love your enemies. Love your mistakes. Love your way through your challenges. Love is the liberator.

Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.

Rabindranath Tagore

2. Let go

Surrender the need to be in control. It has been said that control is the master addiction. Addictions trap you in false expectations.

Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.
Hannah Arendt

3. Discipline

Eliminate the negative – thinking and projecting worst case scenarios. Accentuate the positive – focus on the beauty, joy and peace, in and around you; what it is you want to experience more.

Freedom is from within.

Frank Lloyd Wright

4. Stand tall

Literally. With both feet on the ground. Your head held high. Breathe in deeply. Breathe out any limitations, restrictions, fears, doubts, feelings of being less than who you truly are – a remarkable being, living in an astonishing world at this time.

Freedom lies in being bold.
Robert Frost

5. Act

Take your first step to gaining greater freedom. Give yourself permission to be fully who you truly are, honouring your unique gifts, talents, strengths and abilities. Communicate your intention to those who are important to you. Invite their support.

For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains,
but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.

Nelson Mandela

How could you enjoy greater freedom in your life? Who do you know who inspires you as a “free spirit”? Who are your role models for freedom, and why?

There is nothing wrong with America that faith, love of freedom, intelligence,
and energy of her citizens cannot cure.

Dwight D Eisenhower

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Top 10: Ways To Become An Evolved Man


If you want to become the kind of guy who attracts women automatically — and always has women in his life — it’s important that you become an “evolved man.” You need to operate on a higher level than the average Joe. When you do, you’ll stand out from other guys, attract the women you want and get a hell of a lot more out of life in the process. Here are 10 tips to help you evolve and grow as a man — starting today.

No.10 – Teach others what you learn

If you learn something great, the first order of business is to go teach it to as many people as you can. There’s something about teaching that makes the learning stick. If someone teaches you something and then you go teach it to someone else, it gets internalized deep within you. You’ll “get it” much faster. Teach others every great thing you learn — immediately. Then, when you need it in the future, it will pop up for you automatically. Women will notice, believe me.

No.9 – Enjoy the process of learning

I think it’s a tragedy that school is so boring. We have so much pain attached to the learning process that as soon as we get out of school we never want to learn anything again. However, if you learn how to love the process of learning even more than what you’re learning, you’ll spend the rest of your life learning new things and growing as a man. Continually look for new things to learn; heck, in the process you’ll meet women who love learning too.

No.8 – Accept anxiety

Anxiety happens whenever we’re taking on something new and we need to become a beginner again. Most guys won’t try new things because they’re afraid of looking like a dumbass. Because they’re afraid of getting embarrassed, they trap themselves at their current level of development. But when you’re willing to try new things — and even look silly for a while — you’ll be able to see things with new eyes, and it’ll bring tremendous benefit to your life. Accept anxiety as a good thing:  It means you’re learning something new.

No.7 – Focus on your inner game

Because we are so instant gratification-minded, we think techniques with women are where it’s at. But the truth is this:  When you work on your inner game and learn about the deeper principles that are at work, you’ll pick up the techniques along the way. If you learn from someone who just knows the tricks, when you get into real-world situations you won’t know when or how to use them when the situation changes slightly. However, if you hang out with more evolved masters who teach you the principles, it may take a bit longer, but you’ll see how the techniques fit into the bigger picture. You’ll be much better at executing the technique — and you’ll be much more successful. Don’t get seduced by techniques. Get deep.

No.6 – Travel

If you’re not regularly getting outside of that little bubble you live in, you’re limiting yourself and your perspective. When you expose yourself to new places, people and ideas, it’ll expand your mind and your view on things. I personally believe if everyone in the world could travel twice a year to far away countries, sit down with the people there and share a few meals, it would do a world of good. The more you travel and expand your mind, the more interesting a person you become, the more stories you have and the more attractive you become to women.

No.5 – Know your purpose in life

The incredible number of choices we have nowadays is a blessing — but it’s also a boat anchor tied around our necks, and we’re trying to swim. Confucius said: “Man who chases two rabbits catches none.” Exactly. We have so many options that most of us are confused about what path to take. We haven’t taken the time to sit down, block out all distractions and figure out what our own life purpose is. I believe you can find your purpose in life and clarify it over time. The more you act on it, the clearer it will become — and the bigger it will become. If you don’t know what your purpose is, go lock yourself in a room with a pad of paper and a pen and don’t do anything until you figure it out. Eventually, it’ll come to you. Few guys know that this is one of the most important things you can do to become incredibly attractive to women.

No.4 – Surround yourself with successful models

If you want to be successful, surround yourself with successful models. One of the miracles of technology is that we can buy an audio or video recording, put on headphones and hear (or watch) the teachings of experts around the world, both living and dead. Compare this to plopping down on the couch, watching the news and complaining to your buddies about how screwed up the world is. Take 30 minutes a day to listen or watch a master of success, like Brian Tracy or Napoleon Hill, and your life will be transformed in a year. Try it.

No.3 – Stop giving approval to get it

Almost all of us guys do this one. If we find a woman we really like, we think if we let her do whatever she wants and get away with anything, she’ll love us and stay with us. In other words, we give approval in order to get it. There’s just one problem: It’s manipulative and will almost always backfire. If you’re not successful with women, you’re probably doing a lot of manipulative things you’re not aware of. Just because you’re sweet and nice doesn’t obligate her to be sweet and nice back. Dating doesn’t work that way.

No.2 – Stop seeking approval

People who seek approval are constantly doing things so that other people will accept them. They’re looking for cues to see if people approve of them, and they continually change their behavior to what they think other people will like. They end up wearing out their welcome and being needy — which absolutely kills attraction. Most guys do this without even  knowing it. Looking for the approval of women is like a drug: The more you get, the more you want, the worse it gets — and the less attractive you become. When you catch yourself seeking approval, shift gears and do something else. Women will love you for it.

No.1 – Stop apologizing

Most guys who face challenges with women and dating feel they need to apologize for everything they do that other people don’t like. Too many guys do this simply to get a woman’s approval, thinking if they make themselves weak and apologetic that somehow women will actually like it. Are you kidding? However, if you make it a rule to simply stop apologizing for everything, over time you’ll build a stronger self-image, take more responsibility in your life and let other people have their judgments without it affecting you. You’ll then be able to see when it’s truly appropriate to apologize. You’ll enjoy a nice boost to your personal power  and your ability to attract quality women.

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Why You Need To Get Rid Of Bad Company

By Nate Steere

If you’re trying to get ahead and improve yourself, you’ve taken steps to set yourself up for success. You’ve gotten in shape (mentally and physically), you’re working hard on yourself, and you’re reading books and articles with information you need. If you’re trying to make improvements, great work — most people try to get ahead by blaming their problems on their environment, and don’t take any of the blame for why they’re stuck in a rut.

However, there are ways your environment can drag you down — look at the people around you. If the people you’re friends with, or associate with at work, are a negative influence, guess what? You’re being influenced, whether you’re aware of it or not. Now, any of your friends can have a bad patch, and being there to pick them up when they’re down is part of friendship. But we’re talking about that other friend — the one whose idea of fun is always getting wasted, who can never chip in on the bill and always has a crisis they need help cleaning up. You ignore their calls, and the one time you do pick up feels like one too many. If you’re like most guys, you don’t seek out the company of these people, but when they initiate a meet-up, you tend to accommodate. It’s easy to say and hard to do, but here are four compelling reasons you need to cut ties.

They are shaping your attitude

Jim Rohn is a self-help author who famously said: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Your attitude, the way you look at the world, is influenced by who you spend time with. Think about it: Your worldview is shaped by the things you see and experience in the world. The way you invest your time in people and activities shapes the man you become. That’s why it’s so important for guys to travel, to see new things and expand their horizons. On the flip side, if you spend your time in a smoky bar, listening to somebody complain about how their job sucks, their boss sucks, their love life sucks, and there’s never enough money, it’s going to rub off on you. Do you leave these sessions feeling charged and ready to take on the world? No, they juice you up with negative energy and teach you to look at your life like a victim. That’s just a bad attitude — we’ve all had friends who get into too many fights, trouble with the law, drugs, and worse. You grow to fit your environment, so make sure your environment breeds excellence and positivity.

They are derailing you from your goals

Have you ever been driving home from work, with the plan to cook dinner, clean up around the house, throw in a load of laundry, exercise, save a cat that’s stuck in a tree, solve the Middle Eastern situation, read for a while, then work a little more on your plan to go into business for yourself? Then your phone rings with your buddies telling you to meet them at the bar. You tell yourself “I’ll do all that stuff tomorrow…,” and the next thing you recall is your alarm waking you up in the morning. Listen, plans change, and one of the best parts of being an adult is that you get to make responsible decisions about your life. You can eat pretty much whatever you want to for dinner. Feel like grabbing a DVD tonight? Go for it. And if the offer to do something fun comes along, by all means, rearrange your schedule and have a good time.

Here’s the hitch. When people constantly pull you away from those other areas of your life, it can cause you to become unbalanced. If you’re not achieving your personal goals, you need to balance it out — and your friends should be supportive of that. If taking a pass for the night causes them to tease you, or worse, make fun of your other goals, take a look at that. Granted, good friends bust balls left and right, but they truly want to see you succeed. Toxic friends, on the other hand, are afraid of seeing you succeed, as a reminder how they’re not succeeding in their own lives. If your friends aren’t respectful of your dreams and ambitions, they won’t respect the time you devote to those pursuits, and they’ll try and get you to come to the bar instead.

They’re costing you money

Have another look at the Jim Rohn quote in the first tip. This is outstanding advice in all aspects of friendship, but it’s especially true when it comes to the area of personal finance. Another speaker, Randy Gage, adapted this quote to read, “You earn the average of the salaries of the five people you spend the most time with.” More excellent advice! You’re reading this article, so you’re the kind of person who recognizes wisdom when he sees it. Then again, go ahead and prove Gage right: Grab a piece of paper, list the names of the five people you spend the most time with (a total of five from your work and personal life, typically), write down their approximate salaries (it’s always less than they lead you to believe), add ’em up, and divide by five. This will probably be very close to what you earn. So, what’s the lesson? If you want more money, hang out with rich people? Not at all. Success in business is related to drive, hard work, persistence, and a hundred other qualities. High earners bring value to their companies and are rewarded for it. Their outer reality reflects their inner reality. Thus, hang out around people who give value to their companies. They’re much more likely to give value to their friends as well.

You’re hurting them

OK, so if none of the above arguments have influenced you at all, what about this one? By being accepting of the company of toxic people, you’re not just hurting yourself, you’re hurting them. Ouch! But it’s true; by being available to hang out and hear all of your friends’ problems, you are allowing them to continue in their negativity. If they have a sympathetic ear and a cold beer on hand to deal with their sorrow, they’re going to continue using negativity as a path through life. Problems are meant to challenge us, to make us grow by rising to the occasion. It’s not always easy, but the true path around a problem is through it: stepping up, manning up and solving what needs to be solved. By always being sympathetic when your friends complain, you’re allowing them to be beat by the problems in their lives. That’s right: Now you’re the one being a bad friend.

Being a good man

Hopefully, these points have convinced you to stop spending time and energy on the toxic people in your life. But, also don’t get confused about the point here. Everyone has ups and downs, and the time will come where your true friends need somebody to listen, a shoulder to cry on or even some real help. None of that makes your friend a negative person. You can tell the difference between somebody having a bad day, bad month or even a bad year, versus a person who is in the dumps because they are choosing to be. So don’t abandon your friends — friendship is one of the very best parts of life. And don’t tolerate the people who use you as a crutch — you’ll end up smelling like an armpit. 

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Is Your Sperm Too Old?

By Kevin Conley
While you’ve never been against the idea of a serious relationship, you are in no particular rush to become a schlub. The attendant trappings of new fatherhood—the preschool viewings, the sleepless nights, the humiliation of carrying a diaper bag—aren’t exactly calling out to you the way, say, another night slinging Pisco sours would. The ever-intensifying din of the proverbial biological clock? That’s for the opposite sex to worry about—you know, like periods, frizz, and whether Mr. Big will dump Carrie in the Sex and the City sequel. As far as you know, your little swim team of DNA carriers will be competing at Olympic level into Letterman age. So what’s the rush?

“I always thought my biological clock was the 36 hours I had left after I took my Cialis pill,” says Zack, a 30-year-old producer in Los Angeles. “That’s the only clock I’ve ever felt ticking.” Turns out, Zack might want to consider the unsung glories of fatherhood.

According to a study released last March in the Public Library of Science Medicine, children born to fathers who were 20 scored an average of 2 points higher on an IQ test than children born to 50-year-old fathers. And that’s not all. Recent studies from Israel, California, and Sweden have connected “late paternal age” with any number of serious medical conditions: The longer you wait, the more likely it is that your kid will be affected by schizophrenia, dwarfism, bipolar disorder, autism, Marfan syndrome, certain childhood cancers, or even, later in life, Alzheimer’s. In some cases, the risk factors skyrocket. A 2005 study conducted by the University of California, Los Angeles, found a fourfold rise in Down syndrome among babies born to men 50 and older. Worse still, those risk factors aren’t limited to your tweed-sporting years: Statistically, “late paternal age” starts at 30, as in Zack’s age. A 2006 study conducted by Mount Sinai School of Medicine found that fathers in their thirties have children with about 1.5 times the risk of developing autism compared with fathers in their teens and twenties. That factor jumps to five times for dads in their forties. The cherry on the cake? The American Society for Reproductive Medicine recommends that sperm banks do not accept specimens from men over 40.

“The biological clock for men and women is really the same,” says Dr. Dolores Malaspina of Bellevue Hospital Center in New York City and New York University, who conducted one of the first studies. “It’s just that men can keep having babies.”

The biology behind this isn’t hard to grasp: Starting in puberty, spermatogonia, the master copies for sperm production, replicate themselves every couple of weeks. After 300 to 500 copies—somewhere in your thirties—a meaningful number of small copy errors, or point mutations, start to emerge, which accumulate over time.

Yet, despite the alarming new science, most men greet parenthood with a sense of urgency that’s more in line with Zack’s than Angelina Jolie’s. The reason is simple: While women are inculcated with the risks of late-age motherhood in sixth-grade sex ed, men remain blissfully ignorant. Since the recent studies have been published, the bad news still doesn’t seem to be making it to the doctor’s office. Scott, a 32-year-old schoolteacher from Babylon, New York, decided to start a family when he was Zack’s age, strictly because he wanted to raise his child while he was young. “For me the doctors were like, ‘Hey, this is going to be good. You’re still active,'” Scott says. “Nobody ever told me about the medical risks of being an older dad.”

That’s because men don’t usually get this news flash until they’re looking through a microscope at a batch of fugly sperm with no sense of direction. Swain, a 37-year-old IT professional in Dallas, wishes he had heard sooner. “Who cares if the baby is born with six fingerswe can’t get that far,” he says. “I’d be thrilled to have that problem.” His wife is four years younger than he is, and they decided to wait. “What I did was let her clock be the one in control,” Swain says. “I would have been happy having kids five, six years ago, but she just wasn’t ready. The female clock seems to dominate the conversation.”

But don’t expect sweeping social change anytime soon. “Tell a man he’s got a chance of having kids with genetic abnormalities, and it’s like he’s going through the stages of the acceptance of death,” says Dr. Harry Fisch, a professor of urology and the author of The Male Biological Clock. “They’ll say, ‘I’m losing my manliness, my sexual ability.’ To them it all comes under the same umbrella.”

The good news is that no one, not even Malaspina, is suggesting that older men eschew the joys of fatherhood. But if you’re a younger guy who hasn’t thought twice about postponing it, be forewarned: The female of the species is about to get her just rewards. That bell tolling? It’s for you.

December 26, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Dining/Living, Love, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“School Girls”: New Dress Trend in London Clubbing


The main idea of the club is to dress up in your old school uniform – or, if that was as hideous as mine was or no longer fits, an approximation to the stereotypical school uniform. Most people came in white shirts, stripy ties, and black or grey skirts or trousers – some of the more inventive had unearthed little caps, straw boaters, blazers, cricket jumpers, mortarboards (they came as teachers) and scouts’ uniforms, and a few enterprising boys came in drag. The more unusual you look the more attention you get, so dress up or down depending on whether you want to get chatted up all night or just spend a fun evening dancing with friends.

The DJ started off on eighties classics – Wake Me Up Before You Go-go and Take on Me were played one after the other, followed swiftly by assorted Madonna hits, Come on Eileen and other staples of eighties compilation tapes. A birthday gave the excuse to launch into Celebrate, which kicked off a series of seventies songs. Even if you weren’t around when they first came out (or hadn’t yet graduated onto pop music) it would be unusual not to know most of the songs – they’re the sort of cheesy anthems familiar from pubs, school/university discos, and hired DJs.

Any criticisms? Unless you buy tickets over the web in advance, you usually have to queue for at least an hour and a half before getting in – the night I went it was snowing. The club is also packed (and it always fills up to its maximum capacity), making it quite difficult to move without bumping into someone else. The venue isn’t brilliantly maintained, and is a bit grubby – mostly this adds to the ramshackle ’school disco’ charm, but it was quite annoying that there wasn’t any loo paper in the girls’ loos, even at the beginning of the evening.

It’s almost impossible to avoid pulling at schooldisco – almost everyone is young,reasonably good-looking and amazingly flirtatious. The school uniform thing probably helps as well, not least because it dissolves inhibitions – when you already look absurdly like an extra from Grange Hill or a Soho sex show, there seems very little point in preserving your dignity. That said, it’s also great for a night out with friends – the eighties and seventies hits make everyone feel warm and nostalgic (unless they’re incredibly cool and contemptuous towards anything that could be considered cheesy).


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December 20, 2009 Posted by | Art/Culture, Dating/Sex, Dining/Living | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Deweaponizing The Gun

 by Fiona Killackey

As mediums go, guns rarely figure into an artist’s tools, but for Alabama-based Walton Creel they have become the weapon of choice for creating thought-provoking art. CH caught up with Creel to learn more about his series, “Deweaponizing the Gun.”

Growing up surrounded by the powerful weapon, Creel bought his first gun in his teens—a mini-14, the gun used by the A-Team—which he first put to use while on a date with his girlfriend. “Here, guns seem to be woven into the fabric of southern society,” he explains. Wanting to explore more about the gun culture that seemed to permeate his life and many others who use guns recreationally throughout the U.S., Creel set out to “incorporate guns into a project that could speak to that.”

His work, created by shooting bullets into reinforced aluminum and generating a patterned silhouette effect, Creel admits the process drained him, “I started off just going into the woods with canvas, then realized I needed a stronger material.” Taking nearly a full year to develop his current technique and the resulting first piece (an image of a deer) Creel took time off before continuing to work on the remaining pieces of his series.

Completing his project two years later, Creel’s collection of works challenges popular opinion about the purpose of guns and their ability for uses in a positive light—not surprisingly their reception has been mixed.

“Whatever view a person already holds on guns is the view they project onto me. If they love guns and think gun ownership is a God-given right, then they see my work as reinforcement of that view. If they think guns should be banned, they see my work as an ironic protest.”

December 14, 2009 Posted by | Art/Culture, Dining/Living, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Star-Trek Apartment

Tony Alleyne is a British hardcore Star-Trek fan who decided to transform his home into the ultimate home-made Star-Trek set.  Tony began his project in 1999, after his wife left him, he aimed to give his flat the ultimate make-over and turn it into a Star-Trek bachelor pad. He finished his masterpiece in 2004, but then decided to turn it into the Voyager starship.  Now his 500 square feet apartment features voice-activated lighting, air conditioning, LED lights, but is missing a bed. A few years ago doctors advised Alleyne to sleep on the floor to cure his sciatica, so he took this opportunity to transform his bedroom into a transporter room.

After hand-crafting the decor elements himself, Tony Alleyne opened his very own design company. Unfortunately this over-the-top project also got him broke. His ex-wife, who owns the apartment, put it up for sale, but so far no one is interested. Tony says he’s happy the deal didn’t go through, as he loves living in his very own Voyager ship.

If you are interested in acquiring the Star-Trek apartment or if you just want to take a virtual tour, visit

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December 13, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

One Legged Latin Dancer

Incredible dancing skills, makes me want to sign up for salsa classes…

December 13, 2009 Posted by | Art/Culture, Dining/Living, Health/Sports | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How To: Score at the Office Christmas Party

Company Christmas parties are about sharing a love for Christ with your co-workers, as well as finding someone to rub genitals with.

Step #1: Do Your Homework 

The odds are pretty good that there are going to be more than a few women at the office Christmas party, and they can’t all be viable options for you.  You’ll have to know which chicks to watch and which ones to forget about, so it’s important to be prepared.  Pay close attention on casual Fridays.  Watch for things like tramp stamps, exposed underwear straps, and big slutty heels.  Those things say “I have in the past, or still do, enjoy casual intercourse with partners I wish to never speak to again.”   

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December 13, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living, Humor | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How To Sell Your Body For Cash

In literature, men foolishly sell parts of themselves they can’t afford. Goethe’s Faust sells his soul for the same thing Wagner’s Wotan gives up his eye for, which is the same prize for which Adam surrenders his innocence: knowledge. Self-destruction is the inevitable result. Damn, omniscience is costly!

Why sell something unrecoverable of yours in exchange for silly abstractions when your body already produces a host of renewable cash cows? Truth is, the modern world offers men various ways to prostitute their bodies and its resources, and most of them won’t leave you feeling desperate for a fix and a shower.


Being a sperm donor takes two basic male desires — orgasms and money — and, in a seemingly “too good to be true” moment, combines them. That said, sperm banks hold to exceptionally high standards: The extensive, multilayered screening process eliminates about 95% of us.  To begin, you typically have to be between 18 and 35 years old, and in solid health. Then, prepare to expose your family tree to a thorough, honest dissection, going back two generations. You’ll be asked about tattoos, drug use, experimental sex, your grandma’s TB, your uncle’s alcoholism, and your mother’s schizoid episodes.  If invited in, you’ll be given a sterile cup and offered “aides” in the form of movies or magazines, or both; just don’t count on a hand job from the hottie at the front desk. You’ll be instructed not to use a lubricant, as it can contaminate the “specimen” (or load, or wad, whichever you care to call it). Your boys will then be tested for everything from the obvious (sperm count) to the unexpected (forward momentum), and that’s just for starters. 

If accepted as a donor, you’ll earn between $50 to $200 per specimen. You’ll be expected to rub one out into their cups two to three times per week and make a commitment to the program that lasts six months or longer depending  Continue reading…

December 13, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Dining/Living, Health/Sports | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Male Boobs (Gynecomastia)

By David Freeman
WebMD Feature
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

Elliot W. Jacobs, MD, knows a thing or two about enlarged breasts in men, and not just because he specializes in treating the condition. “My own breasts became enlarged when I was a teenager,” says the New York City-based plastic surgeon. “It was very embarrassing. When I was being fitted for my bar mitzvah suit, the salesman said, ‘A little chesty, aren’t you?’ I dreaded playing shirts-and-skins basketball in gym class, because I hated running up and down the floor without a shirt, my chest bouncing. Once, I went to my locker after gym class and saw that a classmate had hung a bra on it.”

Jacobs is just one of countless men to suffer the embarrassment of male breast enlargement, a.k.a. man boobs or moobs or, in medical parlance, gynecomastia. Whatever name it goes by, the condition has been the butt of countless jokes: Remember the 1995 episode of Seinfeld in which Kramer comes up with a brassiere for men (and has trouble deciding whether to call it a “bro” or a “mansiere”)? Of course, for the millions of men and boys who have enlarged male breasts, there’s nothing funny about the condition.

‘Man Boobs’ Affect Males of All Ages

Gynecomastia affects up to two-thirds of pubescent boys and half of all men. Male breast enlargement that arises in puberty often resolves on its own, within a matter of months, as hormone levels normalize. When the condition arises in adulthood, it tends to Continue reading…

December 9, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Dining/Living, Health/Sports, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Sailing Around The World For A Cause


If you could sail around the world and share those experiences with others, how would you do it? Three twentysomethings — Alan Stewart, 24; Adam Domanski, 26; and Trevor Dreyfus, 26 — have the answer. It begins with a BlackBerry, a website and a blog, a satellite phone and a HAM radio. (And Twitter.) Currently moored in Coconut Grove, the trio set sail on a 40-foot 1966 Rhodes Reliant sailboat named the William T. Piquette from Hampton, Va. They plan to travel through the Caribbean, Central and South America, Southeast Asia, Africa and Europe. Eventually they will end up back at their starting point — in Virginia.   

That’s 80 cities in 60 countries in two-and-a-half years.

And they will use their website, Eye of the World ( to blog about their travels, create 50-minute documentary films and hold video conferences with middle school students and their teachers in Virginia, Georgia and North Carolina.   Continue reading…

December 9, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living, News | Leave a comment

Asiate Restaurant Review

Every man has a list of restaurants in his back pocket, each one with a particular function attached to it. You have your flaming-hot wings joint for Monday nights with the boys, your formal-but-not-too-formal place for second dates, and your vibe-of-the-city place where you bring out-of-towners. You may also have your special occasion place, where you bring the lady for her anniversary and mom for her birthday. If you do, and if you’re a New Yorker, we’re about to replace it for you. Asiate in the Mandarin Oriental is your new go-to in this category.

The Scene

You’re lucky to have AM to point out these discoveries to you, because Asiate isn’t a place that you’re likely to stumble across.  The restaurant is on the 35th floor of the Mandarin Oriental Hotel, accessible via the third floor of the adjoining Time Warner Center. So, you’ll be taking the escalator through The Shops at Columbus Circle to access it, and however posh they may be, it’s still a mall. And an escalator is still an escalator, and you usually don’t find a “back pocket” restaurant at the end of one.

Asiate, however, is the exception, and once you walk into it you’ll forget all about the view en route. Yes, the much-celebrated décor is lovely (and was voted best in the city in Zagat’s 2009 survey). But there’s a good chance you won’t even notice it, as you’ll be completely submerged in the view. With floor-to-ceiling windows overlooking Central Park, eating at Asiate is all about the view. Just be sure to book a window table! If you end up in a booth, your special occasion won’t be nearly as special as it could have been.  Continue reading…

December 9, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living | Leave a comment

The New Food And Drink Capital Of The Northeast

Located in southern Maine, and north of every other place you’ve been this year, Portland is becoming more than just a location for L.L. Bean commercials. As if lobster at $4 a pound isn’t enticing enough, the New England city is home to an emerging culinary scene and tons of new microbreweries. With this combination of ambitious chefs and alcoholic entrepreneurs, the city seems to liven up at night, where Sperry Docksiders and slacks are proper attire no matter where you’re drinking. And even if you don’t own boat shoes, the Portland locals will embrace you. They’ve felt neglected ever since the capital was moved to Augusta in 1832.

Why You Should Visit

You haven’t tasted lobster until you’ve seen it pulled from the back dock and thrown into the steamer. Inhumane? Depends who’s asking. Delicious? Yes, no matter who you are. Portland has tons of restaurants where this dream becomes a reality, notably J’s Oyster Bar, which is a less touristy alternative to Portland Lobster Company. After you wrestle with a three-pounder, get a feel for the city by walking through the cobblestone streets of the Old Port. Lined with pubs and drunken mutterings of white whales and perfect storms, the Old Port is at the heart of downtown. However, if lobster and salty fisherman are Portland’s past, than restaurants like Fore Street and Five-Fifty-Five are products of the new wave. Couple these Michelin starred restaurants with microbreweries like Shipyard and you’ve got the day and dinner planned out. For the night, head back to the Old Port for some live music. It’s a bit north of Margaritaville, but Jimmy Buffet requests are still accepted.   Continue reading…

December 8, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living, News | Leave a comment

Top 10 Evil Doctors


Doctors are said to be people that help those who are sick or in need of medical treatment. Most doctors are seen as benevolent towards society as a whole, but maybe not by those people who need to get their routine vaccinations.

Though we hope our doctors are nothing less than helpful and trustworthy, throughout history, there have been extremely evil doctors who have ruined lives, and even killed some of their patients.  Here is a list of ten doctors that surely aren’t ones to go to for your regular check-up.  Read about all 10 Evil Doctors…

An extremely controversial topic in today’s world, Jack Kevorkian is known for ending the lives of his terminally ill patient’s through assisted suicide. He was a champion for the right and is often quoted saying “dying is not a crime.” It is said that he allowed 130 or more of his patients to die with his help. Kevorkian created his own euthanasia machines that would allow a patient to die two ways. The first was the “Thanatron”, which used an IV to inject the patient with saline, sodium thiopental, and potassium chloride. He also used the “Mercitron,” which involved a gas mask that utilized carbon monoxide. Eventually, his actions were investigated and he was arrested on charges of second-degree murder and served jail-time from 1999-2007, but today is on parole.

Though not your normal physician, Walter Freeman was a neurologist that graduated from Yale and the University Of Pennsylvania Medical School. Even though he didn’t set out with malicious intentions, Freeman completed over 3500 lobotomies within the U.S., most notably Rosemary Kennedy and many others. While today lobotomies are rarely used, Freeman helped to perfect them and made his claim to fame after being able to complete them successfully and “heal” the patient. However, Freeman seemed to become very zealous; using an ice pick from his kitchen to complete a lobotomy, completing over 20 lobotomies in a day without use of a surgeon, and even allowing the media to watch a lobotomy be performed that ultimately ended in death, as the ice pick slipped into the patient’s brain. Believe it or not, Freeman seemed unbothered by the man’s death and continued on to do another surgery.

December 8, 2009 Posted by | Dining/Living, Health/Sports, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back

Is there a chick out there who isn’t a little bit haunted by that “one who got away”? You know: the ex you regret breaking up with, or the guy friend you had a secret crush on in high school, or the hot summer fling you wish had turned into more…Oh well, he’s nice to fantasize about occasionally, but he’s a lost cause, right?

Not necessarily. In fact, “retrosexual romances” seem to be the hottest hook-up trend out there — courtesy of Facebook and other social networking sites that make it super-easy to reconnect with an old flame. But should you? Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, shares the deets on whether to dig back into the past, and, if you do, how to work a happy — and sexy — reunion.

1. Before contacting your ex, ask yourself two key questions. First, do you truly harbor feelings for him — or are you possibly just bored or sick of being single? Don’t go there unless you’re positive you’re still into him. Second, was your past relationship with him healthy? It’s much easier to recall all the great things about a guy than to bring to mind the bad stuff, like how you fought all the time or how unmotivated he was. Make an honest assessment of your past bond to avoid falling back into a negative situation.

2. If your answer to both questions was yes, go ahead and reach out. Start off super-casual to take the temperature of things. Say something like, “It was so nice to see your name on Facebook! How are you?” His response will reveal a lot. If his reply Continue reading…

December 8, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Dining/Living | Leave a comment