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Lock Down His Love

by Elise Nersesian Women’s Health.com

It happened slowly, over time. Relationships became less defined, and now it’s often hard to know if you’re actually in one. “Even if a guy acts like a boyfriend, he may not be committed,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women. “Online dating gives you so many choices that some guys prefer to keep their options open.”

That’s where Facebook comes in—not only does it connect men with new potential mates, it also keeps them in touch with old flames. “Our studies show that 80 percent of people keep in contact with their exes through social-networking sites,” says Amy Muise, a Ph.D. candidate in the department of applied social psychology at the University of Guelph in Ontario. “With all these reminders of the past, it can become harder for men to live in the present and make their relationships official.”

The provider complex
But perhaps the biggest factor that’s keeping men perpetually single is the economy. Significantly more men than women have lost their jobs. In fact, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, roughly 75 percent of lost jobs have been to men since the recession began. Understandably, guys feel overwhelming pressure to focus solely on their careers. “Many men have decided they simply can’t afford to have a girlfriend right now,” says Bethany Marshall, Ph.D., author of Deal Breakers. “They don’t have the money to buy expensive dinners or fancy gifts.” Nor do they feel they have the time or energy necessary for making a relationship work.

As a result, many couples (and we’re using that term loosely) fall into a gray area that sort of resembles a relationship but lacks the exclusivity and respect that a real romance requires. And this state of being may suit men better than women. “It’s important to women to know where they stand,” Marshall says. “They are relational by nature and need to know their role with a man in order to feel comfortable.”

How to make him your boyfriend
According to research, women have a greater chance of landing a boyfriend when they don’t have sex on the first date. “Even if he’s trying to angle his way upstairs, men actually enjoy waiting,” advises Haltzman. Log three or four dates before sleeping with him. If that’s too retro for you, at least limit the number of nights you hang out. “Don’t skip yoga or happy hour just because he wants to see you,” says Marshall. “Not always being available keeps the mystery alive.”

Also, when he asks what you want to do on a date, throw out something low-key, like dinner at a bar or a bike ride. That will take the pressure off him financially, and you’ll appear fun and unpretentious—qualities all men admire.

Done all that and he’s still not committing? It’s time to articulate your desires. “Guys may hate ‘the talk,’ but it’s fair for you to express that you would like to be exclusive,” Haltzman says. Try saying something like, “I’m having fun with you and I don’t really want to see other people anymore. Do you?” If he says he can’t commit, break it off. Sometimes, realizing you’re slipping away is what gives him the kick in the butt to hold on.

December 19, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Love | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Hot Russian Brides Who Look Like Celebrities

HotRussianBrides.com is a site that specializes in hooking up guys from the west with unbelievably sexy Russian women. If you’re looking for more than just a hot wife, but actually want to be married to someone who is the spitting image of a famous celebrity, you’re now in luck.  On one side is a famous celebrity and on the other side is an actual Russian mail-order bride. For some of these girls, you’re going to have a hard time figuring out which is which.

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December 14, 2009 Posted by | Celebs, Dating/Sex, Health/Sports | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Men Married To Smart Women Live Longer

Times Online

by Shane Watson

There is a lingering suspicion among girls (as the unpopularity of science subjects demonstrates) that boys don’t value cleverness as an essential quality in a life partner. Given a choice between gorgeous or brainy, there is no guarantee they’ll do the right thing, because men think they’re clever enough for two. Well, it turns out they’re wrong. Swedish scientists have discovered that long life and good health have nothing to do with a man’s education and everything to do with his wife’s. Men married to smart women live longer — simple.

However, before you ring up your girlfriend to tell her that the man who left her for a bimbo will drop dead of brain atrophy, this is not a victory for women’s intelligence in general. It would be nice if our stimulating observations about FlashForward and the Tory agenda were keeping our men alert and full of life. Unfortunately, it’s simply our skill at processing advice about healthy lifestyles, and passing it on. All it boils down to is that “educated” married women have long since banned their men from eating pork pies at every other meal. They instinctively know about the importance of breakfast, the downside of dips (men think hummus is a diet aid) and the virtues of Green & Black’s 85% (the chocolate that doesn’t count). The Carla effect, in other words, is alive and well beyond the boundaries of the Elysée Palace.

Still, this seems like a narrow reading of how a woman’s intelligence affects her husband’s health. Cholesterol-watching is only the tip of the iceberg. On top of that, there’s the whole good exercise, bad exercise battle. (Men will only do exercise that results in a calf injury, and only in binges, so they are grey with exhaustion every day for a week, then laid up for the rest of the month; we are constantly lobbying for yoga.) There’s risk-avoidance training, too. For example, the struggle to prevent men walking to work in winter with sopping wet hair, wearing only a shirt; or, my personal favourite, reminding them not to shut the tea towel in the oven door, because that’s what causes all the black smoke and flames.

For some of us, the challenge of keeping our menfolk fit and well goes way beyond encouraging them to lay off the Player’s Navy Cut. Since being married to my husband, I have had to point out that swallowing chewing gum is not normal, let alone healthy. Ditto eating food that has been showered with glass. Lighting a fire in a tent. Cooking topless. Dialling while pedalling. Smoking over an open car bonnet (just kidding, but only just). The point is, without a female in the house, most men would come to a sticky end, with or without the daily sausage sandwich.

So what’s in it for us? Back in the days when the goal was to marry a rich man, at least you could look forward to a bit of his’n’hers indulgence. Now it’s all checking the salt content of the bran flakes and pushing selenium. You can’t help feeling a bit short-changed.

November 29, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Health/Sports | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment