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Two Or More Orgasms A Week Makes You Live Longer

Talk about getting your knickers in a twist. When earlier this year a brochure from the British National Health Service announced, “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away,” it created an immediate brouhaha, with educators and health experts calling it deplorable and warning that it would encourage “risky” behavior and STDs.

Okay, maybe the Health Service did go a bit too far when they created a page from a fictional high-school girl’s weekly planner with handwritten reminders to “masturbate!” and “bring condoms to the date on Saturday!” But it turns out, they have a very strong point. “There are a number of health benefits to be gained from having sex or an orgasm — or many orgasms — daily,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Pleasuring: The Secrets of Sexual Satisfaction. The stress-relief goodies are obvious, along with better sleep and some PMS pain relief. But that’s just the small stuff.

In Peak Condition

Experts agree that there’s growing evidence of wide-ranging health benefits of orgasms, starting with the biggie: longevity. Research shows that men who have two or more orgasms a week live longer than do guys who have fewer than that. And while female orgasms haven’t yet been studied separately, another study shows that women who report enjoying intercourse live longer than do women who reported less pleasure in sex.  Continue reading orgasm news…

December 8, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Health/Sports, News | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Foreplay Matters (Especially for Women)

By Lisa Zamosky
WebMD the Magazine – Feature

Whoever said the most important thing in life is to finish strong never had a frank conversation with a woman about the importance of foreplay. When it comes to sexual prelude, men and women don’t always see eye to eye. As you ready yourself for slow, leisurely lovemaking, suddenly your evening turns into an Emeril Lagasse show: Things were cooking, and then … bam! It’s over.  “It’s particularly important for women to have successful foreplay because it takes a woman a longer time [than a man] to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm,” says “Dr. Ruth” Westheimer, EdD, a psychosexual therapist, professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton universities. 

A man can just think about sex and have an erection, but for most women, wanting sex is not enough, says Westheimer. Foreplay serves a physical and emotional purpose, helping prepare both mind and body for sex. Many women need to be kissed, hugged, and caressed to create lubrication in the vagina, which is important for comfortable intercourse. 

Foreplay and the Clitoris

Foreplay also helps the clitoris fulfill its “O” so important role. “It has the same characteristics as the penis,” Westheimer says. “Blood flows into the clitoris, and in order for a woman to have an orgasm, there must be lubrication in the vagina, but also the clitoris must get erect.” Stimulation is the key to achieving pleasure.  But we’re more than just our biology. After all, a girl’s got feelings. Westheimer says a woman especially needs emotional assurance that the man she’s about to have sex with really wants to be with her. The time and attention given during foreplay can communicate that message in a way the “Wham, bam, thank you, ma’am” approach simply cannot.  So let your guy in on the secret: Even Emeril allows his dishes to simmer for a little while before bringing them to a boil.

Foreplay Tips

Start off strong with these foreplay tips from Dr. Ruth:

Check it out. If anything “down there” hurts or isn’t working the way you think it should, don’t wonder about it — see a doctor. For him, difficulty maintaining an erection and, for her, pain during intercourse always requires a medical evaluation.

Don’t zone out. Many couples are embarrassed to ask their partner to stimulate erogenous zones that are very pleasurable but can be considered taboo. The nipples, the anus, the back of the neck — all have nerve endings. So don’t be shy. The only shame when it comes to foreplay is a missed opportunity for pleasure.

Stay the course. There is a moment before orgasm when many women give up, thinking nothing will happen. It’s a self-sabotaging mistake. Stay with the stimulation and the orgasm will come.

December 7, 2009 Posted by | Dating/Sex, Health/Sports | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment